Miranda. 23. Filipina-Australian, cisgender, and bisexual lady-type. Useless wastrel who daydreams in sequins, comic book expressions and musical numbers.

You might know me from that one glasses meme.

Prone to posting intersectional feminist quotes, various and varying babes, items of the literary and comic nerd culture and the occasional tentacle.

Any reaction images/gifs I post (unless they are of my face) are almost definitely not mine.

dallisons:

right but more talk about educating women like shailene woodley who don’t really understand the concept of feminism and thus consider feminism with a very naive type of internalized misogyny and less trash talking women who were brought up within the patriarchy and haven’t learned what they need to yet

because like, 99% of us? were there

and then we got out

some people are still getting out

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fandomsandfeminism:

benny-cum-in-my-ass:

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doctor-no-boyfriend:

Feminism had a noble cause for equality until it became a hate movement .

People have been accusing feminism of being a hate movement since women started trying to get the right to vote. 

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but that was before tumblr got to it and now people are scared to be white, cis gendered and straight

If people are “Scared” to be white, cis, and straight people marginalized people on the internet might call them out for the oppressive shit they are complicit in unapologetically, then maybe that’s a good damn learning experience. 

Because here is the thing about privilege- it often becomes VERY hard to separate “I am part of a privileged demographic” and “I have unintentionally contributed to other people’s oppression because I’m part of a privileged demographic and these behaviors have been normalized for me.” So being called out feels like a personal attack.

That doesn’t make feminism or other social equality movements “hate movements” 

It means that the sensibilities of oppressors is not more important that social activism to end systematic inequality. 

Men in the 1910’s said that they felt ATTACKED by the Suffrage movement. That they were being unfair targeted for being men by these women.

And that was no more true in 1910 than it is now. The more things change, the more they stay the same. 

In my ideal world, the misogynists would be ultra-detectable, with facial pocks and sulfury odors and grunt “wiggle your glazed donut ass for me.” I would even take the world as I thought it a few years ago, where misogynists talk like Tucker Max and live in Greek houses and call women “biddies.” But confusingly, misogynists are sometimes men who speak softly and eat vegan and say “a woman’s sexual freedom is an essential component to her liberation. So come here.” It’s a tricky world out there. And while I’d prefer a critical approach to gender from men I elect, read, and even bed, in my experience, the so-called feminist men I’ve met deep down have not been less antagonistic or bigoted toward women. What I see over and over again is misogyny in sheep’s clothing, and at this point, I would rather see wolves as wolves.

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The Fake Male Feminist Chicanery by Minh Nguyen | Cold Drank

(Read the whole essay. I just got my life this Tuesday.)

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peppersongg:

if you don’t want to call yourself a feminist because of the historical failure of feminism to be sufficiently intersectional, feminists should be respectful of that while we try to fix our movement. People have every reason to reject feminism on grounds of racism, transmisogyny, ableism and various other problems. The only reason you can get mad about people rejecting feminism is if it is out of ignorance to misogyny embedded in social structures and government.

sarahreesbrennan:

gratuitous-moonspeak:

getting sick of female YA authors crying about every little bit of criticism they get. “oh boo hoo I’m a girl and I’m getting criticized so it must be sexist”

like hey yeah maybe you’re just bad at writing? maybe you need to break out of your circle jerk of well-to-do writer friends who just pat each other on the back and say, “no no it’s fine if people don’t like your writing it’s not because you’re a hack, it’s because they’re a meanie poo poo head”? maybe you need to get people who aren’t emotionally invested in you to read your shitty stories and give you actual feedback so you can improve as an author?

but what am I saying, I’m not a NY Times best-selling author

This was tagged ‘Sarah Rees Brennan’ and ‘whiny babies’, so I presume it refers to me and the recent post I made.

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Now, I’m going to have to ask for my readers for a little help here. I promised myself that this once, I would react to this stuff, and show it to people so everybody knows about the things women writers usually keep quiet about. But I don’t want to set people on anybody. I don’t want anyone else called names, and I definitely don’t want anyone to become a target for defending me. So… please, please don’t message this person. Trust me. I can take care of myself, and I’m trying to do so. Thank you in advance, my crystal vases of clear water: I appreciate you. 

So here we go. Original poster, I am sorry that female YA writers talking about sexism bores you, because I fear we are not going to stop.

http://jenniferlynnbarnes.tumblr.com/post/51744321696/for-those-of-you-interested-in-publishing-some

http://jenniferlynnbarnes.tumblr.com/post/52139503163/author-gender-null-results-examining-privilege

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/maureen-johnson/gender-coverup_b_3231484.html

More bad news: sometimes adult-fiction female authors discuss it as well!

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jason-pinter/jodi-picoult-jennifer-weiner-franzen_b_693143.html

There are a few misapprehensions in this post.

1) Misapprehension 1—I was talking about book criticism.

On amazon and goodreads and tumblr there’s plenty of criticism of every book in the world, including my books. That’s excellent. I would fight to the death for anyone’s right to leave a review on my book that said ‘Total poop.’ (I vow not to go looking for the inevitable goodreads review that says ‘Total poop’ after this post.) I’m not going to say I don’t care—but I respect anyone’s right to criticise the quality of my books. It’s subjective. It’s their opinion, and they get to express it.

My post was not about book criticism.

I was pointing out that women get judged for their hobbies in a way men don’t get judged for theirs.

I was pointing out that a man can do the exact same thing as a woman, and yet nobody criticises the guy for it.

Having your school visits cancelled because of malicious strangers, getting death threats, being publicly insulted at book signings, being threatened with—as another author who reblogged this was—acid in the face… none of that is book criticism.

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2) Misapprehension 2. I am a NY Times best-selling author and very well-off…?

Okay, the NY Times bestseller thing is a technicality. Technically I am one. But it’s for stories I co-wrote, and it’s because those stories are about a super-popular character I did not create. I think it’s wonderful he’s so popular, I think it’s a testament to the fact readers will embrace diverse characters, I’m proud to be a part of the project, but I can’t take the credit. And it sure doesn’t make my books bestselling. I worry every day that I won’t ever get another book published. (Um… clearly if I didn’t, it would be good news to some.)

As for being ‘well-to-do’: well, yes again, in a way. I can live and pay rent on the money I make, and have luxuries like travel and lots of books, and without being subsidised by another job, or a parent or a spouse. (My parents would fire me out of a cannon if I asked, and nobody has as yet been convinced to take me on in holy matrimony, so it’d have to be another job.) Someone on twitter did the maths and described my yearly income as pretty average and that’s about right (for a privileged person in a privileged position, which I am). I’m super lucky to be able to support myself, for the moment, on my earnings as a writer. But I don’t have that many expenses—I don’t own a house, I don’t have kids—that’s how I make my life work. I certainly can’t afford an assistant to weed out all the hatemail I get, or to go through my tumblr tag for me so I don’t have to see hate there. I want to be clear that I’m very lucky, but also make clear that I don’t know why anyone would decide I was wealthy enough for it to be commented on.

I’m also… not sure why I decided to announce to people who don’t like me that I’m not rich and popular.

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I’d be delighted to be rich and popular! I don’t mind if people who dislike me spend their time going ‘That SRB… her life is so great’ even though I’m actually spending my time catching up on My Mad Fat Diary and I haven’t brushed my hair since yesterday.

What I’m thinking is that I want to make the same point as in my first post. The point is twofold.

a) The assumptions people make (often about women) often aren’t true.

b) Said assumptions are often hurled as accusations against women, and that’s unfair whether they’re true or not.

Jennifer Lynn Barnes, in her amazing follow-up post to mine, discussed parasocial relationships and the way people come to believe they know other people whom they do not know. 

http://jenniferlynnbarnes.tumblr.com/post/77959090266/on-fandom-parasocial-relationships-and-what-we-dont

So I share all this personal information to show… well, clearly this person doesn’t know me. None of us know the people we only know from the internet.

But to the second point—if I was well-off or bestselling, would it be okay to call me names? I think I was called ‘well-to-do’ and ‘bestselling’ to highlight this person’s belief I don’t deserve success.

Women in many fields are told that they are not deserving of success, money or recognition. It’s kind of a thing.

http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2013/13/130519-women-scientists-overlooked-dna-history-science/

http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/monkey-cage/wp/2013/10/04/why-is-work-by-women-systematically-devalued/

And we tell ourselves we suck, too. 

http://www.psmag.com/navigation/business-economics/qualified-job-wait-probably-imposter-syndrome-psychology-68700/

(Er. Oh dear. Talking about sexism again! Funny that.)

3) Misapprehension 3… I don’t have anyone to critique my work who is not emotionally invested in me.

… But of course I do?

They’re called my editor and my copyeditor. That’s their job. 

Extra critique is an optional extra, something I ask for from some people whose professional expertise I trust, as an add-on to the publisher’s feedback I already get, because I really want my books to be as good as they can possibly be. Some of these critique partners are very well-off, some of them a lot worse-off than me. Some of them are emotionally invested in me (that’s how things work with your friends) some of them couldn’t care less about me but do it because I will critique for them in return, or because I pay them. I wouldn’t keep them as my critique partners unless they critiqued me thoroughly.

All my critique partners do critique me extremely thoroughly, and none of them have ever told me that other critiques were mean. ‘Go meaner’ they murmur to themselves as I writhe on the floor, then pick myself back up again and write. ‘MEANER.’ 

If there is a strong objection to writers being friends, please go back in time and make a complaint to Shelley, Byron, and Keats, the original mean girls clique. Also to C.S. Lewis, J.R.R. Tolkien, and J.A.W. Bennett—a bunch of people who loved initials. Thank goodness nobody ever liked something they wrote.

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(Some bunch of losers.)

Wait no, they’re men, and people don’t critique men for being friends or colleagues, even though dudes being colleagues means way more benefits for dudes than for ladies:

http://www.ibtimes.com/book-reviews-are-boys-club-vida-count-finds-women-still-rare-sight-pages-major-literary-magazines

(There I go talking about sexism again! Sorry, sorry, it’s a sickness. It’s not like it comes up all the time.)

4) Misapprehension 4… I don’t care for being called ‘whiny’ as it’s a pretty gendered term.

http://bigthink.com/harpys-review/hop-on-the-waaaambulance-in-defense-of-whining-women

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(I don’t know what it is with this compulsion of mine to say that things are sexist… when I think they’re sexist. It’s so weird.)

As for being called a ‘hack’… that was actually a perfectly fine thing to say. This person doesn’t know me. I can tell them that I love my work, and that I work very hard, and that I try to produce stories that feel original and exciting to me, but they don’t have to believe me.

If the ‘shitty stories’ (thanks for reading my work, original poster, and I’m sorry it wasn’t your cup of tea) I write struck them as ‘hastily written (they weren’t), routine or commercial (I wish!)’—I looked up hack, it’s in the definition—that’s fair. It’s a judgement of my writing and that’s fine. 

It is, however, a judgement more often made about women than men.

We’ve all heard that women can’t write. People come to books thinking ‘oh lord, a girl’ or ‘I can’t stand her’ and it’s very hard to read a book you’re prejudiced against fairly: it’s very easy to decide women are lousy writers.

http://www.salon.com/2011/06/02/naipaul_slams_jane_austen_women_writers/

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If you’ve called men hacks too, just as often, then fine. If you’ve given the matter serious thought and gone: yes, even if this person was someone I really liked I’d think the writing sucked, fine. Call me a hack. You have my permission, and you didn’t need my permission in the first place.

Here’s a thought to close with, about insults that aren’t about writing. You can call me a hack if you like, but there are other words (which the original poster didn’t use) which I do find unacceptable. 

I get called a bitch a lot. It’s not a word I like.

http://the-toast.net/2013/11/12/a-female-author-talks-about-sexism-and-self-promotion/

If someone honestly spends their time going ‘God, when will these stupid whiny bitches stop talking about feminism? Sexism exists, but this bitch isn’t suffering from it! What a bitch, why doesn’t she shut her stupid bitch mouth!’ and they don’t see a contradiction there, okay. I don’t get it, but it happens a lot. It’s happened to me a lot. 

But here’s a suggestion: a good way to make me stop talking about being called a bitch would be to stop calling me a bitch. And I’d enjoy being called a bitch less often. Everybody wins!

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Guess what? I’m sick of talking about this too. It would be better for me if I just shut up. It’s scary for a writer who’s (as extensively discussed) not that popular, and terrified about her career. It’s scary for a woman who is concerned about her physical safety. I don’t want people calling me a bitch or a whiny baby (and as you can see, they do). I don’t want people making fun of a picture of me up on Oh No They Didn’t. I don’t want people picking apart my books because they’ve decided they dislike me. I don’t want people telling me that I’m imagining negativity when negativity comes at me every day.

I’d like a world which doesn’t punish women for talking about their own damn lives, though. I want the world to be different. I think it’s important to talk about this.

So I will.

daniellemertina:

date a girl who reads bell hooks and other on point feminist theorists because she will recognize that there are multiple ways to be objectified including by the ‘date a girl who reads’ trope. 

pridefulvanity:

next time someone tells you Muslim countries oppress women, let them know Pakistan, Bangladesh, Indonesia, Turkey, Kosovo, Kyrgyzstan, and Senegal have all had female Presidents or Prime Ministers and 1/3rd of Egypt’s parliament is female but the US has yet to even have a female vice president and can’t say “vagina” when discussing female reproductive rights

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putmeincoach reblogged your post and added:

Please, list me all of those female architects, scientists and great minds that male architects and scientists ripped off. No, really, I am curious to see all of these female inventors and pioneers you’re speaking of.

Ada Lovelace - Founder of scientific computing, the world’s first computer programmer. Modern computers as we know them wouldn’t exist without her innovations.

Queen Seondeok of Silla - Silla was one of the three kingdoms in Korea’s Three Kingdom period and Seondeok was its first reigning Queen. She is well known for setting up the first astronomy tower in Asia and for founding several Buddhist temples.

Cecilia Payne - Discovered what the sun was made of. Was then prohibited from publishing her work. Henry Norris Russel republished her work as his own and received all the credit. 

Jocelyn Bell Burnell - Discovered the first pulsar. Anthony Hewish took credit and listed her a non involved assistant, he had nothing to do with the discovery. Not only did he receive all the credit, he received the Nobel prize. 

Lise Meitner - Co-discovered nuclear fission and her male colleagues refused to name her in their publication. The men won the Nobel Prize, and she received no credit.  

Nettie Stevens - Discovered chromosomes determined sex, when she sent her work to a man for peer review, he published a book of her work passing it off as his own and named her a technician. 

Marie Curie - Noted Nobel prize laureate (first lady to earn 2), discovered radium. Barred from many prestigious male dominated academic organizations like the French Academy due to being a female. She was demonized and attacked by men all her life simply for being superior to men in the field, and men in general. 

Marie Van Brittan Brown - Co-invented home security surveillance that is the precursor of home security systems today. You wont hear her name in history class, not only is she a woman, she is a black woman. ERASED by nasty white men LIKE YOU. 

Lucy Terry - Another historical black woman, erased by neo-colonialist white men. This young lady was a teenager when she composed the first known work of literature by an African American person. 

Mary Shelley -Invented science fiction. She literally invented a genre of literature, she was a teenager when she wrote her first piece. Across the northern American continent. While she was pregnant.  

Sacagawea - An indigenous American (Lemhi Shoshone) who led Lewis & Clark across the northern American continent. While she was pregnant.

Elizabeth Gurley Flynn - feminist, suffragette, civil rights activist, founded the ACLU

Sarah Parker Remond -worked to desegregate schools and end slavery. Also noted physician- but you wont read about her in your white history books because she is black. Its like you white dudes just threw together some shitty fan fiction and called that history. 

Hedy Lamarr - came up with an early technique for spread spectrum communications and frequency hopping, necessary for wireless communication from the pre-computer age to the present day. She invented your wi-fi in addition to being an actress. SUCK IT. 

Vera Rubin -Rejected from Princeton because she was female, went to Cornell instead and discovered dark matter while earning her PhD. Went on to make contributions that your simpleminded white male self couldn’t begin to fathom. 

This list is just a taste of what women have accomplished. Women invented the core technologies that make civilization possible. This is a not a feminist myth, this is what anthropologists KNOW. Women have made those contributions in spite of astonishing hurdles. Hurdles like not being allowed to go to school, or not being allowed to work in an office with men, or join a professional society, or walk on the street, or own property. Hell, some of these women were legally deemed property, a fraction of a human being.

Eleanor of Aquitaine, Queen Catherine the Great, Queen Christina of Sweden, Anacaona of Hispaniola, Hypatia of Athens, Aspasia of Thebes, Dido, Cleopatra, Nefertiti, Nzhinga of Matamba, Joan of Arc, Queen Elizabeth I, Queen Anne Boleyn, Queen Catherine of Spain, Queen Isabella of Castille, Florence Nightingale, Boudicca of the Picts, Hildegard of Bingen, Heloise of Paris, St Theresa of Avila, Theodora of Constantinople, Queen Sybila of Jerusalem, Queen Catherine de Medici, Mirabai of India, Cady Stanton, Margaret Sanger, Harriet Beecher Stowe, Emmeline Pankhurst, Emily Murphy, Rosa Luxembourg, ArchEmpress Maria Theresa of the Austrian-Hungarian Empire

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Did you want more? Those are just the ones I could think of off the top of my head.

aww you put in mirabai :)

and of course…from the sciences…rosalind franklin, jocelyn burnell, ester lederburg, LISE MEITNER, mathilde krim, and countless, countless others (did you know that menten of michaelis-menten was a woman?); these are just from the west; this doesn’t count women elsewhere who are trafficked and raped from birth instead of being allowed to explore their potential in the sciences. here’s a list of indian women overshadowed in the sciences. if women’s potential in the sciences were fulfilled and nurtured and credit duly given then it would probably change the world as we know it overnight. 

Of course! Theology was a major area of philosophical study, and from what I read, she was very knowledgeable And any woman who survives three assassination attempts (iirc? I know there was more than just the one) is p badass. Also women have always had a place in the sciences. We were the first computer programmers, telephone technicians and medical professionals (rural women figured out how to prevent smallpox hundreds of years before Germ Theory or the concept of inoculation was a thing). Haven’t died of smallpox recently? You’re welcome. <3 

You ladies are amazing! All this history, our history off the top of your head!

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 Thank you both, this is exactly what I was trying to convey to this ignorant dudebro. Who has yet to respond, btw. 

From Ada Lovelace to Grace Hopper, computers owe everything to women. All six “human computers” working on the famous ENIAC machine were women, and isn’t it funny how people nowadays have some sort of idea of what ENIAC was but not who maintained it?  In fact, computer programming, especially software programming, used to be considered a woman’s jobThey were still paid less than the men who were also in the fieldBut they still did it better.

The first person to crack part of the German Enigma cypher was a woman we only know today as Mrs BB Her solution was dismissed as being too simplistic, though she turned out to be correct.  But we still don’t know her name.  She worked at Bletchley Park, home of the UK’s cryptographers before and during WWII - most of the people working there were women (I’ve seen it as high as estimating 80% women)One of them, Mavis Batey, died a couple weeks ago, in fact.  She decoded the Italian navy Enigma cypher - AT NINETEEN.

Also, to throw in some of my other favorite ladies that I don’t see listed so far: Simone de Beauvoir, Émilie du Châtelet, Princess Elisabeth of the Palantine, Sofia Vasilyevna Kovalevskaya, Emmy Noether…  I could go on and on.  All sorts of brilliant ladies who directly influenced men we cherry pick from history (Voltaire, Sartre, etc.) or whose accomplishments we’ve forgotten despite their value have existed throughout time, everywhere and every place.

Oh look, more erased women who built civilization as we know it! What would women do without men to steal our discoveries and take credit for them? IDK thrive, probably

Sadly, the greatest threat to women through all ages has always been men and prejudice.

Lynn Conway invented the VLSI process to create true superscalar computing, and while she was at IBM, pre-transition, she invented dynamic instruction sequencing, which permitted instructions to be issued to a processor out of sequence. Modern microchips would not be possible without this invention. 

I’d also like to humbly submit the 60 women from the ‘women in history’ challenges that I did:

http://friendlycloud.tumblr.com/tagged/30-days-of-women-in-history

Amongst them: the first writer known by name and the first scientist who used the distillery technique in Mesopotamia.

It is exactly because of people like Putmeincoach and the ‘women did nothing in history’ bullshit we have been fed for centuries that I started those.

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averagebare:

"if you feminists want equality does that mean you think it’s cool if men hit women?" how about 1 in 3 women experience domestic violence you giant dookie. how about men already do hit women. how about domestic violence is the no.1 cause of injury to women between ages 15 & 44. how about i switch your apple juice with piss. how about that.

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nicolas-christ:

Pantene Phillippines #whipit Labels against women

my superpowerful awesome boss lady was talking about this advertisement today and it made me really sad b/c she is like my hero

Oh hey, fuck yeah Philippines!

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