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Miranda. 23. Useless wastrel who daydreams in sequins, comic book expressions and musical numbers.

You might know me from that one glasses meme.

Prone to posting feminist quotes, various and varying babes, items of the literary and comic nerd culture and the more than occasional tentacle.

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7 hours ago | 3,865 notes

Daniel Franzese, Damian of Mean Girls, comes out -- and don't you dare say he's too gay to function

gaywrites:

Ten years after the debut of the life-altering movie that is Mean Girls, actor Daniel Franzese, who played openly gay high schooler Damian, has come out as gay.

Franzese, now 36, wrote a letter to his character that was published in IndieWire. He asks himself why it had taken him so long to come out as gay, saying that his portrayal of Damian actually set him back in Hollywood and in his own personal coming to terms with himself.

The whole thing is damn insightful and meaningful, but here’s a particularly telling excerpt about how Daniel’s career took an unexpected turn after he played Damian:

One time I wanted to audition for a supporting character in a low-budget indie movie described as a “doughy, blue-collar lug of a guy.”  The role was to play the husband of an actress friend of mine who I had been in two movies and an Off-Broadway play with.  She and I had even moved to L.A. together. I figured I was perfect for it.

They said they were looking for a real “man’s man.”  The casting director wouldn’t even let me audition. This wasn’t the last time this happened. There were industry people who had seen me play you in Mean Girls but never seen me read in an audition but still denied me to be seen for “masculine” roles.

However, I did turn down many offers to play flamboyant, feather-boa-slinging stereotypes that always seemed to be laughed at BECAUSE they were gay. How could I go from playing an inspirational, progressive gay youth to the embarrassing, cliched butt-of-a-joke? 

So, there it was. Damian, you had ruined my life and I was really pissed at you. I became celibate for a year and a half. I didn’t go to any gay bars, have any flings and I lied to anyone who asked if I was gay. I even brought a girl to the ‘Mean Girls’ premiere and kissed her on the red carpet, making her my unwitting beard.  

Why come out now, then? 

It wasn’t until years later that grown men started to coming up to me on the street - some of them in tears - and thanking me for being a role model to them. Telling me I gave them comfort not only being young and gay but also being a big dude. It was then that I realized how much of an impact YOU had made on them.  

Before you make the “too gay to function” joke, which I totally did before I finished reading the article, listen to what he has to say about it:

I hate it when people say I’m ‘too gay to function.’ I know you do, too. Those people are part of the problem. They should refrain from using that phrase. It really is only OK when Janis says it.

It takes some serious guts to be this open about the intermingling of your career and your personal life, especially when admitting that playing a beloved character in a classic movie has impacted you in a negative way. I have loads of respect for this man. Congrats, Daniel. 

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3 weeks ago | 168,797 notes
fuzzy-knees:

reilluminated:

My mom let her facebook friends/family know what’s up regarding me just now and this is how she did it.
Heck yeah, mom.

Cutest shit I have pretty much ever seen

fuzzy-knees:

reilluminated:

My mom let her facebook friends/family know what’s up regarding me just now and this is how she did it.

Heck yeah, mom.

Cutest shit I have pretty much ever seen

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1 month ago | 4,909 notes

impromptuonedykedanceparty:

delphinidae:

katyglyndwr:

ok listen it’s really nifty that “say your name and pronouns” is getting to be a thing in queer spaces but. lets talk about the etiquette for that if u are cis because i think maybe we should lay it bare, just so we’re all on the same page.

inappropriate things to say when asked for your pronouns

  • "i don’t care about pronouns/you can call me whatever"*
  • "call me whatever you think i am"
  • [pronoun joke]
  • "i’m a guy/lady"
  • [anything about being cis]

appropriate things to say when asked for your pronouns

  • your goddamn pronouns

*trans+ folks with no pronoun preference exist and u are beautiful twinkling diamonds shine on, friend, shine on

also: please don’t say “masculine pronouns” or “feminine pronouns”, just say the pronouns!

YES EXACTLY THANK.

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1 month ago | 249 notes

HELP GLEE MADE MY SISTER BISEXUAL

thatbadadvice:

Auntie Sparknotes, 20 February 2014:

Hi Auntie, So I’ll just cut right to the chase: my 13-year old sister (I’m 15) recently came out to me and my Mom as being bisexual. It was literally right in the middle of an argument, when I was chastising her because she had been extremely rude to me as of late for no apparent reason. She then told us that since she had been holding the secret of her sexuality in, she was being rude to me and my mom. My immediate reaction was that it’s total bullcrap. She’s never dated anybody before, never kissed anyone (she even admitted that), nothing. So I find it very hard to believe that she could think that she also has crushes on girls. Because if she’s never actually had a romantic relationship with anybody, guys or girls, then how could she know anything about her sexuality? I’m also dubious because she’s recently been watching a lot of Glee, and she’s the kind of person that gets really influenced by media. So she comes out to us right around the time that she’s been obsessing over a show that features a gay couple? Not necessarily a coincidence, in my opinion. It’s not like me or my family has anything against homosexuality, as my uncle is a married gay man, and we love him. It’s just the fact that my sister is so young. Also, we live in a tightly-knit conservative community, so I’m worried what other people will think of her, and as an extension, me. My sister is the kind of person that trusts people that consistently stab her in the back, so that’s why I’m worried. What should I do Auntie?

Dear What Should I Do?,

What a loving sister you are, to look out for your woefully mislead sibling whose mind has been warped by Glee's gay propaganda machine! So many people could potentially stab her in the back, and here you are to protect her from all those other back-stabbing people who could stab her in the back.

Your sister’s sexuality is up for grabs, and only you can force her to see that her desires are as you say they are; would that she not be manipulated by insidious outside forces! Only you can prevent your sister from the dangers of a society that ostracizes and marginalizes people who don’t identify as heterosexual and, most importantly, their siblings. 

Everyone knows that no one can declare their sexual orientation until they have had several meaningful, long-lasting, sexually active relationships with other humans; this is why publications like Tiger Beat have struggled to stay afloat for decades.

Ask your sister to join you in watching hetero-focused media—that is, if you can manage to find any in this gay-centric world we’re living in—and see whether some time with a little-known ABC documentary program called The Bachelor will turn her into the straight person your social life needs her to be.

I love the idea that Glee somehow made her sister bisexual when Glee thinks all bisexuals are indecisive, greedy cheaters.

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2 months ago | 18,453 notes

Polite reminder for straight people who say “who cares” when someone comes out: such gestures are addressed to lonely queer kids. not you.

- Tweet by Danny Bowes (@moviesbybowes).

I want to retweet and reblog that a million times. (via alliahart)
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2 months ago | 28,165 notes

Ellen Page said she’d been scared to reveal her truth, and in response way too many people responded with, ”In other news, the sky is blue.” The fact that so many felt comfortable being that rude to someone who’d just publicly shared a private struggle speaks volumes about how important they consider the issues of gay women to be. We should be wary of these people. People like them are why so many believe this country is post-racial or post-feminist when this country is racist as fuck and hates women.

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2 months ago | 7,733 notes

BREAKING: Facebook introduces custom gender settings

illbeyourbrooklyn:

unevenlygrown:

gaywrites:

Today, Facebook introduced the option of custom gender and pronoun settings on individual profiles, AKA more than just “male” or “female.” The site will now allow you to enter up to 10 different gender identities (out of about 50 possibilities) as well as pronouns — though these appear to only include he/him/his, she/her/hers and they/them/theirs. Changes are live now! 

Identities on the list include transgender, agender, cisgender, two-spirit, neutrois, genderqueer, intersex, androgynous, and many, many more. 

Here’s a portion of the FAQ:

Q: Why is Facebook doing this?

We want everyone to feel comfortable being their true, authentic selves on Facebook.  An important part of this is the expression of gender, especially when it extends beyond the definitions of just male or female.  We’re proud to have worked with leaders in the LGBT community to offer these new features to people who use Facebook. 

Q: I just signed up for Facebook and didn’t see the “custom” gender option.

A: If you are a new user, you will need to choose from the male/female gender option when signing up and then navigate back to your profile at any time after signing up to change your gender to custom.

Q. Will news feed stories appear when I change my gender? 

A. No.

Q. What is the audience of my gender?

A: If you choose a custom gender, you can select the audience for your selected gender(s), but your preferred pronoun (male, female, or neutral) will always be public.

Some of the custom gender options appear to be more of gender descriptors than identifiers, but for a lot of people these are crucial to one’s complete identity. And, womp, you can still only be “interested in” men, women or both.

Overall, this is huge. Facebook consulted with LGBT advocacy organizations to carry out this process, so there was clearly genuine thought put into it, and it’s going to give people so much more freedom, accuracy and honesty in self-identifying online. 

What do you think?

fyi!

This is really cool because now you don’t have to do complicated code-y things to change your facebook pronouns!!!

Also it looks like the (55!) gender options are:

  • Agender
  • Androgyne
  • Androgynous
  • Bigender
  • Cis
  • Cis Female
  • Cis Male
  • Cis Man
  • Cis Woman
  • Cisgender Female
  • Cisgender Male
  • Cisgender Man
  • Cisgender Woman
  • FTM
  • Female to Male
  • Gender Fluid
  • Gender Variant
  • Genderqueer
  • Gender Questioning
  • Gender Nonconforming
  • Intersex
  • MTF
  • Male to Female
  • Neither
  • Neutrois
  • Non-binary
  • Other
  • Pangender
  • Trans
  • Trans Female
  • Trans Male
  • Trans Man
  • Trans Person
  • Trans Woman
  • Trans*
  • Trans* Female
  • Trans* Male
  • Trans* Man
  • Trans* Person
  • Trans* Woman
  • Transfeminine
  • Transgender
  • Transgender Female
  • Transgender Male
  • Transgender Man
  • Transgender Person
  • Transgender Woman
  • Transmasculine
  • Transsexual
  • Transsexual Female
  • Transsexual Male
  • Transsexual Man
  • Transsexual Person
  • Transsexual Woman
  • Two-spirit

So I guess this is cool in terms of allowing people to describe themselves how they want to and in multiple ways! I think this is complicated and obviously has flaws but is interesting and definitely a step up from just “male”/”female” or “do not show on profile” and/or [edit html to gender from facebook]

Good job Facebook! I just changed my gender to Cisgender Woman. If you are cisgender, I encourage you to change your fb gender to suit it. It normalizes the idea of there being more than two genders, that ‘cisgender’ is not the default, and I think it’s a good step in acknowledging your privilege. Obviously if you’re genderqueer or somewhere on the transgender spectrum there are reasons why you might not want that information publicized- but if you’re cis like me, it hurts no one to state so explicitly. 

(feel free to correct me if I’m saying something brainless about gender btdubs)

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2 months ago | 68,291 notes

janetmock:

Janet Mock returns to Piers Morgan Live. (x)

My people are everything. Thank you for supporting me tonight. I exist among giants. I love you all. 

(Source: brownbodied)

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