Miranda. 23. Filipina-Australian, cisgender, and bisexual lady-type. Useless wastrel who daydreams in sequins, comic book expressions and musical numbers.

You might know me from that one glasses meme.

Prone to posting intersectional feminist quotes, various and varying babes, items of the literary and comic nerd culture and the occasional tentacle.

Any reaction images/gifs I post (unless they are of my face) are almost definitely not mine.



Porn Sex vs Real Sex: The Differences Explained With Food (by kbcreativelab)

Because food innuendos rock. And because porn sex and real sex are, more often than not, two very different things.

P.S. For more on porn sex v. real sex, allow us to recommend Make Love Not Porn.




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I’m not sure if you have seen this or posted it but it is perfect.

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Here is a brief guide to some of the important things you never learned about in sex ed. 

  • Debunking myths about anatomy 
  • Brief overview of sexuality and gender (More complex version here)
  • Slut-shaming and consent
  • Various types of birth control (with at least 95% effectiveness) 
  • Masturbation 
  • Lube
  • Sex toys

Ebook for sharing is [HERE] (I’m sorry I just really love making ebooks…)

The blind myth comes from the fact that when a male ejaculates, he loses iron (might be zinc?) in his cum. If a male loses too much iron/zinc you go blind, but you could never masturbate hard enough to lose that much. I forget the exact mineral but it’s been debunked.

Really nice info graphic!



imagine that you have a four year old and a really beautiful giant chocolate cake

and you put the cake in front of the kid and that’s it you dont give her any plates or any utensils you just sort of set the cake down in front of the kid and then tell her not to eat it 

and the reason you tell her not to eat it is because she’ll get messy or she’ll eat too much and get sick but instead of telling her that you just sort of look at her and then go ‘yeah’ and walk away and leave her to her own devices

and then obviously the minute you walk out of the room she’s begins that cake i mean come on it’s chocolate and beautiful and yeah you told her not to eat it but you know what fuck that noise it’s a perfectly good cake why not

so she digs in but you didnt give her anything just the cake ( and what a beautiful cake it is ) so she just sort of digs in with her hands and she gets it everywhere and then eventually she’s eaten so much that she gets sick and you come back in a couple of minutes later and she’s there sprawled on her chair with cake all over her face and floor and feeling like she’s going to vomit and you shake your head at that four year old and go ‘i did all i could this is all her fault now’

that’s abstinence-only sex education

I love food metaphors for sex.

(Source: sensorycortex)

Pro-Abstinence Sex Ed




A male presenter came up and started talking about how virginity was a beautiful gift and should be treasured. He showed a rose to the class and asked who wanted the flower. Everyone raised their hands. He plucked a petal off and asked how many people would still want the flower. Most people raised their hands. He asked someone to pull a petal off and repeated the question. This continued until the flower was bare. He said “Don’t you see that the flower isn’t as valuable because it’s been touched by so many people? How many of you would still want the flower?”

One guy raised his hand up and shouted out:

“I would. It doesn’t matter who touched the flower before I did. If you think that, you are a moron. And your metaphor is sexist.”

To this day, I don’t know who that guy was, but he’s still my hero.

I like this story. I like it a lot. 

And remember: you are a human being, not a flower or a piece of tape or any of the bullshit they use for these demonstrations. Being touched by other people doesn’t make you worthless. Having sex doesn’t make you unworthy of love. Being a virgin is not your lone function in this world. There is nothing, NOTHING wrong with abstinence or celibacy, but you shouldn’t be shamed into doing it.


What to do when you know something about sex that your friend doesn’t!


If you are talking about sex, and your friend says something like “I have never heard of that!”, don’t shame them, educate them!

I have heard people shame their friends for not knowing everything they know about sex and relationships. This kind of behavior leads to dangerous and ill-informed experiences that can end badly. 

There is no shame in asking questions about bodies, sex, experiences, relationships, kinks, or fetishes. It’s totally ok to question things, and to not know everything! Everyone has to learn at some point, and that’s ok!

At the same time, if you are not read to learn about these things and don’t plan to participate in anything anytime soon, it’s ok to excuse yourself from a conversation, or to change the subject. Don’t pressure anyone into talking about sex if they don’t want to!

This is just a short PSA because I see and hear this happen so often!

Be nice to other people who don’t know everything you know, take that chance to teach them or to give them resources to learn.

(Source: fyeahaltsex)



Meet Aparna Bhola, India’s teen sex educator 

“There’s nothing to giggle or be shy about; there’s no shame in it. It’s important for us to learn about these things. Be totally bindaas (carefree) and ask me questions,” says Aparna Bhola, with a wide smile.

It’s a hot Sunday afternoon, but the stifling Mumbai summer air does nothing to curb the enthusiasm of the girls surrounding her. Aparna, a spunky 16-year-old, is in the midst of giving a group of her peers a candid sex-education class, and today’s topic is pregnancy. She leads the class confidently, dispelling superstitions with funny stories and apologizing disarmingly for her chalk drawing skills.

Aparna is member of a nongovernmental organization called Kranti, meaning “revolution,” which strives to give young women rescued from prostitution access to education and new opportunities. She was teaching the class as part of a partnership with an organization called Project Crayons, which runs a shelter for girls in Mumbai’s Malad neighborhood.

The daughter of a sex worker, Aparna grew up in Kolkata. Her mother, Malti, was married when she was 9 and was beaten by her husband. When she ran away and returned to her hometown in the Sundarbans, her aunt took her to Kolkata under the pretense of sending her to school. There, Malti was sold into sex work for 10,000 rupees ($180 at current exchange rates) when she was 12 years old. When she initially refused to be a prostitute, the brothel owner stuffed chili powder in her genitals to force her into submission, says Aparna.

Growing up in red-light districts, Aparna says she was distressed by the way doctors routinely mistreated sex workers because of the stigma against their profession. Her mother, diagnosed with uterine cysts, was unable to get treatment for them because of the bias against sex workers. Aparna remembers a niece being refused treatment by a doctor who said he didn’t want to bother with such poor people.

When sex workers like Aparna’s mother would become pregnant, the “doctors would treat them so badly,” Aparna recalls. “They would yell at them, and even slap them sometimes. They would say things like ‘You go and pick up anyone’s child and come to me with your stomach swollen. When you were doing it, you enjoyed yourself and now what happened?’ ”

These encounters made Aparna want to become a gynecologist. Even when she was younger, she would share with her friends and peers whatever sexual health-related information she could find.

“I want to work with gynecology to cater to sex workers because I know the issues they faced,” says Aparna, her face set in a determined expression. “If I became a doctor, I could give whatever information the mothers need when they are pregnant. There would be someone to talk to them nicely when they are in pain.”

In the time that she has spent at Kranti, Aparna has stopped drinking, improved her English, gained confidence and branched out into a number of extracurricular activities. She just completed grade 11, and is working toward her dream of becoming a gynecologist. This year she will enter the 12th grade and is planning to take the entrance examinations for medical school.

She also represented Maharashtra state in the Youth Parliament, an advisory group to the state government, where participants recently discussed whether sex education should be introduced in Indian schools.

“I used to think that my whole world is within the four walls of my room, of the house,” says Aparna. “Now I see that there is a big, big world beyond that where many things are possible for me.”

“What I really want is that girls become powerful and aren’t scared of anyone,” says Aparna. “They should think in their minds that ‘I will go ahead and progress and no one can hold me back.” 

Now THAT’S a fierce woman.

The Pros and Cons of Breathing: Consent || riotandremember.tumblr.com


I believe I’ve seen a comprehensive description of consent once before. Figured I’d contribute as it’s a subject that bears repeating.

Consent is:

  • Non-coercive: If you’re cojoling, threatening or otherwise trying to “convince” someone to engage in a sexual act with you, you…

(Source: chotpot)

What does virginity mean to a queer person, who may never have vaginal intercourse in her/his/hir life? What of a lesbian who chooses to never engage in any sort of penetrative sex act her entire life, does she remain some sort of super, extra virgin? If a straight man receives a blowjob, he will in all likelihood still consider himself a virgin, but a gay man receiving a blowjob may have a more complicated understanding of what it means for his sex life. In many ways, our conception of “virginity” erases or invalidates queer sex.